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Saturday, August 3, 2013

Huma Abedin and Anthony Weiner

Huma Abadin is "blaming herself" for her politician husband's sext-infidelity and American women have jumped her almost as badly as they jumped Hillary for "staying with Bill" after the Monica scandal broke.  It's not what is said about such things that surprises me, it's the left out parts that really make the story.  Without a Paula Jones, there would have been no Monica Lewinsky.  Meaning Hillary had a massive problem long before America caught wind of the cigar.  'Scuze that.  Hillary didn't have a problem, she had an agreement.  Happens all the time, so leave her alone - and not in just high profile marriages.  Many times, we just don't want to throw in the towel on something that has become public any more than we did while it was private.  It just becomes everyone else's business, 'specially if you're famous.  It doesn't surprise me that this is fodder for conversation, but it does surprise me that it continues to be front page news.  Either we have a situation which is common to many political marriages, which is a mutual agreement to stay in a marriage for appearances, or you have a woman in Huma Abedin who may be accepting her own part of the responsibility in a failing marriage.  She didn't make him sext.  It's not her fault that he sexted.  But the way I see it, you have two major kinds of adulterers:  Your pervasive serial adulterer who is either a skirt or zipper chaser, usually by nature, but sometimes just by habit, which they learn to excuse with their spouse's bad behavior (perceived or otherwise), or they have a failing marriage and have chosen a wrong but expected avenue for relief.  Not front page news.  Her marriage, her man, her cell phone bill.  If she chooses not to end her marriage, she's a doormat.  If she leaves him - she's a hero for women everywhere because she left her husband and decides to break up a marriage that has produced a child because he sent nasty texts?  Yeah, he was wrong to have done that.  And he was to blame for his own choice.  But her willingness to say that she owns a part in a failing marriage gives me a little hope for women who may otherwise feel that they must be followers of feminism and let "like-minded" people dictate their marital strategies.  Anthony Weiner chose his behavior and so has Huma Abedin.  I'm willing to just accept THEIR decision for THEIR marriage, and move on to page 2.

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